You’re approval is not needed! We often attempt to shape and mold ourselves to fit into other’s specific ideals; denying our true selves. We have the here and now to allow ourselves to be “ourselves”, shirking other’s opinions. It matters not what others think of us, as long as we remain true to ourselves. This is NOT clearing someone to be a jerk; it could be argued that those who would look down on others are filled with fear and insecurity. Those would would injure others are often writhe with anger and such fear along with a lack of confidence. I am not perfect, but it has come to pass that, as I have gained a sense of self-confidence and security, I no longer feel the need to belittle or argue with opposite parties. It can be said that individuals who insult and argue are missing a sense of self-esteem and feel the need to take their lack thereof out on opposing parties. However, is not condemning others for their anger still sitting judgment? Judge not.
Peace does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise,trouble, fear ,or hard work …it means to be in the midst of those things and be calm in your heart.
”Few things in the world are more powerful than a positive push. A smile. A world of optimism and hope. A ‘you can do it’ when things are tough.”- Richard M. DeVos
There are so many opportunities to do this throughout our day, yet few take advantage. As human beings, I believe we are always seeking encouragement; this often stems from the most unlikely places. Being fellows, we can, indeed, be the color in someone’s otherwise grey world. Personal circumstances may dictate otherwise and life may seem all but hopeless, but know that it is absolutely NOT. Whether it is a smile, kind word, or random act of kindness; actions indeed make an impact. Know that you are loved unconditionally. Even if I don’t personally know you, know that someone loves you for the simple fact that you ARE and nothing more. Know that you are worthy of being loved and of giving love to others. We sometimes feel as though we are alone, you are NOT; trust that I have been and continue to be on the front lines right along with you. And if no one else tells you, “You can do it and I love you!”
I’ll begin this post with a story –
A certain farmer had become old and ready to pass his farm down to one of his two sons. When he brought his sons together to speak about it, he told them: The farm will go to the younger son.
The older son was furious! “What are you talking about?!” he fumed.
The father sat patiently, thinking.
“Okay,” the father said, “I need you to do something for me. We need more stocks. Will you go to Bhuv’s farm and see if he has any cows for sale?”
The older son shortly returned and reported, “Father, Bhuv has 6 cows for sale.”
The father graciously thanked the older son for his work. He then turned to the younger son and said, “I need you to do something for me. We need more stocks. Will you go to Bhuv’s farm and see if he has any cows for sale?”
The younger son did as he was asked. A short while later, he returned and reported, “Father, Bhuv has 6 cows for sale. Each cow will cost 2,000 rupees. If we are thinking about buying more than 6 cows, Bhuv said he would be willing to reduce the price 100 rupees. Bhuv also said they are getting special jersey cows next week if we aren’t in a hurry, it may be good to wait. However, if we need the cows urgently, Bhuv said he could deliver the cows tomorrow.”
The father graciously thanked the younger son for his work. He then turned to the older son and said, “That’s why your younger brother is getting the farm.”
Most people only do what they are asked, doing only the minimum requirement. They need specific instructions on most things they do.
Conversely, those who become successful and stand apart from the crowd are anxiously engaged in a good cause. They don’t need to be managed in all things. They don’t just do the job, they do it right and complete. They also influence the direction for how certain ideas and projects go.
Most importantly, those who become successful initiate. They reach out to people, ask questions, make recommendations, offer to help, and pitch their ideas.
Being successful requires being proactive and not waiting for life to come to you. It means you’re on offense, not defense. You’re active, not passive.
In every organization or institution, there are a select few people who would be difficult to replace. For the most part, most people are like the older son in the story. Most people could be easily replaced. Most people are passive and reactive. They require specific instructions. They need to be governed and managed in all things.
Initiation always involves some degree of risk. You’re putting yourself out there and there is a chance you could fail.
Alternatively, doing only what you’re told entails no risk and carries no responsibility. It’s playing safe.
But what’s worth it?
Are you an initiator? You absolutely can be.
But if not, one thing is for certain: Life isn’t going to wait for you.
Now Is The Time To Move Out Of Your Comfort Zone.
“Every man who knows how to read has it in his power to magnify himself, to multiply the ways in which he exists, to make his life full, significant and interesting,” says Aldous Huxley.
This is true, practical wisdom. A person, especially a youngster, struggling to find a place in the world, often overlooks the sagacity of such words. He chases imaginary rainbows and comes to deep disappointments. According to me, a magnificent person is –
One whose object of pursuit is not tainted by anger, pleasure, arrogance, abashment, ego and over-estimation of one-self, is known as a wise person.
One whose actions, condulations and innermost thoughts are not known to anybody until the work is done.
One whose work is not stopped by the impediments like the heat and cold, fear and courage, poverty and wealth.
A person who wishes and does only such good action according to one’s might without underestimating anything, such discriminating soul.
One who hears about a subject attentively and calmly, having a quick grasping power, knowingly performs his duty for the attainment of object of pursuit, one who never interferes in other’s affairs unless invited to do so.
One who craves not for unattainable worldly things, one who weeps not for lost things, one who is not afraid during the difficulties.
A person who decides first and then acts, once begun stops not in the middle, one who wastes not the precious time, and hold the mind under control.
One whose knowledge follows the intellect and one whose intelligence follows wisdom.
One who is not egoistic even though is endowed with wealth, wisdom and prosperity.
If we manage to imbibe even half of these, we’ll indeed be on a greater path of self-discovery and of becoming better human beings, thus discovering life with all the good that it possesses and facing the hardships head-on as they come! 🙂
Love and Peace to all ❤
Hope you’re all doing great! 🙂
Today, I decided to write about something that has been bothering me for quite some time now – the psychological mindset of people to go by the so called ‘norms of the society’; to be so concerned about what everyone else is going to think about their acts, their behavior, their appearance, their choices and so many other things that they begin to lose their own individuality in the process! Also, all of us want to do what we want to but we still stop those who do the same. Why can’t we grow together?
Nothing hinders an individual’s growth process as much as this mindset. It’s sad. We want to do something but we don’t because we don’t know what the ‘others’ are going to think about us. We are afraid of facing criticism. We fear judgement. We don’t know whether doing something ‘different’ is right. We want to be ‘accepted’.
Well, criticism and judgement are going to happen either way. They always do. A person who does something good will be criticized by those that can’t do the same and a bad deed is criticized anyway. Judgement is an attribute of mediocre minds, are we seriously so afraid of that mediocrity? You do anything, they’ll judge you anyway; then, why not instead do what you want and be judged?
“I think everybody is weird. We should all celebrate our individuality and not be embarrased or ashamed of it.” – Johnny Depp
Similarly, doing something different and taking a step away from the crowd should certainly have nothing to do with the others.
“People may hate you for being different and not living by society’s standards, but deep down, they wish they had the courage to do the same.”
Wait, but we don’t want to be hated! We must realize, no matter how great an individual, haters will always exist. Always! There will always be people who don’t like you; the way you look, the way you talk, the things you say, the way you dress, the things you believe in, the music you listen to. Nut the truth is: it is up to you if you let them ruin your day, or if you learn to stand up for yourself and accept yourself just the way you are. You are not here to please anyone. Just try to be as good as you can and do what you want.
What I fail to understand is, who are those ‘others’?! Are they going to live our lives for us? Are they going to eat and excrete for us? Are they going to face the troubles and joys of our lives for us? Are they going to breathe for us?!
We are here in this beautiful existence as a unique individual creation of mother nature. We posses divine souls, each here for a different purpose. No two possessions were meant to be the same. Otherwise why would there be diversity at all? Then why is it that we fail to understand the very basic essence of our being and take away its peace?! Why do we get so overcome with those norms and opinions that we begin to do it at the cost of our own happiness? We want to be accepted, but how can we expect others’ to accept us and our ways when our own internal belief system doesn’t accept it? Karma will work either way. We need to accept ourselves and enrich our own selves before expecting it from outside. And that is possible only when we are courageous enough to do what we feel is right. What makes US happy. No, I’m not being suggestive of being selfish here. I’m only suggesting self-love. If we love ourselves enough to do what makes us happy, we will certainly make those around us happy too. We have to learn to say no. And we have to learn to change something instead of whining about how we want to do something but we don’t solely because of “others”. People come, people go. We lead our own lives and so we should lead it in our way.
“When writing the story of your life, don’t let some one else hold the pen.”
You decide what makes you happy.
You already know what you truly want to do.
Nothing is too small or too big to be done if it makes YOU joyful.
You possess infinite strength to do anything you want.
Don’t let the noise of the world stop you from bringing out the best in you.
Be who YOU want to be, not what others want to see.
Just do it!
It’ll not only save you from the regrets of not having done something, but will also allow you to live peacefully.
Ignore the rest!
Everything will fall into place once you follow your heart.
It always does! 🙂
“You will never be able to escape from your heart. So, it’s better to listen to what it has to say.” – Paulo Coelho, Alchemist
At the same time, we must make sure we’re not practicing hypocrisy and hindering some one who is willing to take a different step from doing it. Encouraging them instead would be the right thing to do. 🙂
Love and peace to all ❤
Sharing this beautiful poem by one of the most admired persons, Charlie Chaplin.
As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering
are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth.
Today, I know, this is “AUTHENTICITY”.
As I began to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody
As I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time
was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this
person was me. Today I call it “RESPECT”.
As I began to love myself I stopped craving for a different life,
and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow.
Today I call it “MATURITY”.
As I began to love myself I understood that at any circumstance,
I am in the right place at the right time, and everything happens
at the exactly right moment. So I could be calm.
Today I call it “SELF-CONFIDENCE”.
As I began to love myself I quit steeling my own time,
and I stopped designing huge projects for the future.
Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness, things I love to do
and that make my heart cheer, and I do them in my own way and in
my own rhythm. Today I call it “SIMPLICITY”.
As I began to love myself I freed myself of anything that is no good for
my health – food, people, things, situations, and everything that drew
me down and away from myself. At first I called this attitude
a healthy egoism. Today I know it is “LOVE OF ONESELF”.
As I began to love myself I quit trying to always be right, and ever since
I was wrong less of the time. Today I discovered that is “MODESTY”.
As I began to love myself I refused to go on living in the past and worry
about the future. Now, I only live for the moment, where EVERYTHING
is happening. Today I live each day, day by day, and I call it “FULFILLMENT”.
As I began to love myself I recognized that my mind can disturb me
and it can make me sick. But As I connected it to my heart, my
mind became a valuable ally. Today I call this
connection “WISDOM OF THE HEART”.
We no longer need to fear arguments, confrontations or any kind of problems
with ourselves or others. Even stars collide, and out of their crashing
new worlds are born.Today I know THAT IS “LIFE”!
Hope you’re all doing well.
Love and Peace ❤