You’re approval is not needed! We often attempt to shape and mold ourselves to fit into other’s specific ideals; denying our true selves. We have the here and now to allow ourselves to be “ourselves”, shirking other’s opinions. It matters not what others think of us, as long as we remain true to ourselves. This is NOT clearing someone to be a jerk; it could be argued that those who would look down on others are filled with fear and insecurity. Those would would injure others are often writhe with anger and such fear along with a lack of confidence. I am not perfect, but it has come to pass that, as I have gained a sense of self-confidence and security, I no longer feel the need to belittle or argue with opposite parties. It can be said that individuals who insult and argue are missing a sense of self-esteem and feel the need to take their lack thereof out on opposing parties. However, is not condemning others for their anger still sitting judgment? Judge not.
Peace does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise,trouble, fear ,or hard work …it means to be in the midst of those things and be calm in your heart.
”Few things in the world are more powerful than a positive push. A smile. A world of optimism and hope. A ‘you can do it’ when things are tough.”- Richard M. DeVos
There are so many opportunities to do this throughout our day, yet few take advantage. As human beings, I believe we are always seeking encouragement; this often stems from the most unlikely places. Being fellows, we can, indeed, be the color in someone’s otherwise grey world. Personal circumstances may dictate otherwise and life may seem all but hopeless, but know that it is absolutely NOT. Whether it is a smile, kind word, or random act of kindness; actions indeed make an impact. Know that you are loved unconditionally. Even if I don’t personally know you, know that someone loves you for the simple fact that you ARE and nothing more. Know that you are worthy of being loved and of giving love to others. We sometimes feel as though we are alone, you are NOT; trust that I have been and continue to be on the front lines right along with you. And if no one else tells you, “You can do it and I love you!”
I am always attracted to and promote the concept of happiness. This idea is relatively skewed by society in general; as the general idea has been somewhat perverted by the world at large. Primarily it is due to the fact that we seek external factors to appease us; this is falsely mistaken for happiness. The external is completely subjective and arguable as to what “it” is. Take for instance the idea that you have that you may be happy with a certain home. Consider the fact that someone without a home at all might be content with air conditioner or heat. You would both be “happy” with very different things. But what if you got said house, only to have it catch fire or succumb to some other disaster. Question whether or not you are happy enough, internally, to deal with this. “Things” are fleeting.
My life is not a sob story; it is an example that happiness can be found anywhere it is sought. I have dealt with myriad of trials and tribulations, many to count.I have had plenty of reasons to be angry. But you know what? I realized awhile ago, I could either wallow in misery and be unhappy (which felt horrible) or I could move forward.
Happiness is a choice you make internally, it doesn’t just appear. Yes, we may have moments of joy in our lives, but if we are not truly happy, they may not persevere. When stripped to nothing but yourself,are you truly grateful for and happy with what you have? If you are not,start working on it 🙂
By Arlyn Smith ( arlynsblog )